How to stop being jealous in a relationship.
Lets face it, jealousy is one of the roots of all evil in a relationship. Jealousy can tarnish a relationship if it’s not properly taken care of. Everyone becomes jealous at some point, to a certain extent and if jealousy is one of the root issues in your relationship, this is what you can do to help yourself AND your significant other. First, recognize WHY you are jealous. Is your significant other ALWAYS doing things you don’t like, just to purposely MAKE you jealous? This could be a form of manipulation or simply flat out, your significant other isn’t really into you as much as you thought. There are patterns and routines to a relationship. Study them closely and follow them. If things aren’t really what they used to be, (your significant other won’t hold your hand in public anymore, your significant other won’t kiss you, your significant other stopped returning your calls or texts/emails, your significant other just doesn’t seem too interested any longer), there is a problem. If your significant other is outright cheating on you, step back from the relationship for awhile, there may be bigger fish to fry in the relationship. There’s NO other possible way to fix a relationship other than TALKING IT OUT. Always ASK questions and NEVER assume. First, taking time away from your significant other will kindle the relationship by giving each other space and time to heal before talking things out. When the time is right, have a sit down chat with your significant other and iron out all of the problems and issues. Write them down on paper if you are a forgetful person and work at them, one by one. If you never ask, you’ll never know and the suspense will build up and build up and you’ll eventually start thinking irrational thoughts. If you never work at your issues and make serious changes, chances are you will be saying bye bye to your significant other sooner than you think. Manipulation and the fact that your significant other really isn’t into you, isn’t always the case. Look at the level of jealousy, if your significant other is doing it excessively, there might be a problem. If your significant other is doing it a few times, but they are just minor situations, it COULD mean that your significant other is just trying to get you to pay attention in the relationship. People like to play certain games in relationships just to see if we are paying attention and to keep the romance alive. They want to MAKE SURE we are in tune with them and them only. So if your significant other dances with another girl/guy and that’s it, you shouldn’t be too worried. If your significant other is having a make out session in front of you, you should be pretty concerned. The Bible states that TRUE LOVE is not jealous. Challenge yourself and talk to God. God is the ONLY way you can overcome jealousy. You CAN overcome jealousy in a relationship by closely following this scripture:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8 Love never fails.